8 Ways To Recover From The Pains Associated With Break Up...

Break ups in relationships can be very disastrous and frustrating especially if you truly love the person that has walked out of the relationship. Circumstantially, we have had reports of many people who became psychiatric patients and many who poisoned themselves to death because the person they made up their minds to spend their lives with had disappointed them. They had seen no reason to live again outside having such a person married to. When they experience it, such people might like to tell you ‘let me better die’. Or some would simply tell you in such a situation ‘’let me better die. There’s nobody like Tony (Cynthia) again in life. Since he/she has dropped me, no need to exist again in this world’’. You must not jump into such conclusion. Who told you that Tony or Cynthia is your life and destiny? Were you not living before you met him/her?

Although it’s not easy to bear, you don’t need to kill yourself if you miss a particular partner. Love is genuinely transferable. In fact it is wrong to imagine that there’s only one person in this world that God has created for us to marry and if we miss that person we have missed our perfect mate. Don’t be deceived and misled. It is very possible to find more than one person with whom you can be compatible with and have a good life long relationship with even at the face of disappointment. The fact that you were not ‘very right’ in the former person’s eyes does not mean that you will not just be right in the eyes of someone else! Besides it can be an avenue of getting a better person to have a successful relationship with, so, stay cool, pick the pieces of your life and wait for a ‘‘better Tony or Cynthia’’ patiently. After all, a collapsed engagement is better than a collapsed marriage.

However, the possibility of love transfer I am talking about does not in any way guarantee you of ‘’gambling with your life by saying, ‘’let me relax with that girl or boy on trial and if it doesn’t work well I can transfer my love to another person’’. Not at all! The game of love purely calls consistency except in the case of eventualities like disappointments, loss of a spouse at a tender age, serious disagreement of your family member with the marriage, etc.

RECOVERING FROM THE INCIDENCE

Like I have analysed, a break up is so hurting and grieving. The first two weeks of the strange occurrence may be worst. Like a movie you may continue to recall and review some scenes in the good old days. But the heat must definitely subside as time goes on because time is the healer of all wounds. After all it was at a time you took the risk of going into the relationship just the same way time will take care of the disappointment once you are determined to cooperate with it.

Besides, the following ways can help you get over pains associated with break up:

1.       Refuse to be depressed so that the person who dumped you will not celebrate any form of victory over you.

2.       Keep yourself busy by making plans to meet friends and have fun. This will enable you escape frustration and depression.

3.       Create a new routine, schedule or hobby especially weekends as you must not sit in one place and continue to wet your pillows with tears.

4.       Form the habit of reading novels and other self-help books to while away time.

5.       You can also keep yourself busy by listening to your best type of music.

6.       Don’t sit in one place. Embark on exercise regularly or occasionally as permitted by your mood.

7.       Don’t go to where you are likely to meet your ex except you have the courage to prove that you are not dead of his/her blow.

8.       Finally, be patient enough with yourself to plan for another relationship which must allowed to be better than the previous one. After all, when one door closes another one opens. Don’t say to yourself ‘’you can never another man/woman again with all your heart’’. Always give your best in any relationship you find yourself again…

DISCLAIMER

The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

www.alexoduanam.blogspot.com