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Below are some of the most powerful personality traits which women find attractive in men.

HUMOR

Women respond to humor in a rather powerful way, so if you want to be more attractive to our women learn to be funny. In case you are wondering why humor is a powerful tool to use when trying to meet a woman or in the course of a relationship with her, here is the reason. If you can get a woman to laugh the first time you meet her you will succeed in taking away or erasing the feelings of anxiety which most women often experience the first time a man tries to get to know them.

If you can get a woman to laugh with you she will feel more relaxed in your company and you are more likely to win her trust and maybe her heart with less effort; provided you play your cards right. Now there’s a difference between people laughing with you and people laughing at you, so don’t go and make yourself a clown by making a fool of yourself. Just learn to see the funny side of things, conversations and situations and use this to your advantage.

A good place to apply humor is during your normal day to day interactions with women. She says something and you find a way to put some humor into it and send it back to her.

For example I once found myself seated next to a beautiful young lady whom I was interested in getting to know. In such situations I would usually look for a conversation opener and I found one. I noticed she was holding a plastic bag full of fast foods- hamburgers, chicken and fries, ice cream etc. looking at her with an amazed/funny look on my face I asked her, ‘’don’t tell me you are going to eat all that by yourself’’. Naturally she was surprised and taken unaware by my remark and almost instantly a smile came to her face as she explained that she was actually doing some shopping for herself and a friend. Note that my tone of voice was also confident and friendly so she didn’t mistake my comment as an accusation or as weak attempt to pick her up. We got talking, I got her number and we became friends. That should give you some idea of what finding the funny side of situations and applying humor to a situation can do for you.

Well there is one thing I think I should mention. Not all women will be receptive to your attempts to make friends with them. Some are married or engaged and as a result are not interested in meeting any new men whom they suspect to harbor romantic interest in them

Others have just come out of a relationship and are not yet ready to date again. Yet others just have an attitude problem and don’t know how to receive what they so desperately want so don’t take it personal if you try to get to know a lady and she tells you off or acts like you just committed the greatest crime on earth.

Whenever this happens and believe me it will sometimes; don’t take it personal.

Men who are more successful with women get told off all the time yet they succeed in finding the love of their life because they refuse to become women haters simply because some woman in the past hurt their feeling.

Remember what the Bible says, ‘’he who finds a wife finds a good thing’’. Just make sure you don’t forget to pray about your search while you are doing the finding so you have divine guidance in your finding.

Getting a hang of humor or of the ability to see the funny side of situations or circumstances might not come too easily at the beginning but with just about everything in life, if you persist, you finally get a hang of it.

At this point I think that I might as well offer a word of advice to men who complain about not finding it easy to meet the sort of women they would have loved to meet. The process of finding the right woman requires two phases. The first is prayer for divine direction and intervention. The second is action because you are not very likely to meet the woman of your dreams without making any effort to meet her. If you need some help with finding that special woman (and I know that some of us do) there really is nothing wrong with asking your female friends or perhaps even male friends to introduce you to women whom they think might get on well with you. They don’t have to match make in the real sense of the word, just help both of you meet each other through a proper introduction that’s all. Some couples meet this way and are living happily together today as husband and wife so don’t think it can’t work for you. The end does tend to justify the means sometimes and I think this is one of those times when it does.

THOUGHTFULNESS

Women like acts that suggest that you were thinking of them; they also like it when you actually tell them you were thinking about them. Most women have had first-hand experience of the voracity of the average male’s appetite for more women. They often fear that this appetite of the natural man might cause him to stray and forget her when they are not together. This is why sending your woman a gift in your absence, calling her to let her know you were thinking about her when you can’t be with her or telling her to her face that you were thinking of her and that you missed her when you were away from her has a way of scoring big with your woman.

EDUCATION

Women find education an attractive quality in a man. In reality, most women of today’s women are themselves so ordinarily they would want a man who is also as educated as or even more educated than they are. Having said that, more women would do better to note that some men who may not have had the privilege of spending one year between the walls of classroom can in reality, be even more educated than their other male counterparts who have passed through the university system. Why is this? The reason is that true education is the process of refinement of the mind and the spirit. Off course education includes the ability to read and write and to carry out calculations but it must certainly does not stop there.

True education also includes the ability to express oneself clearly and concisely, to have a broad understanding of the world and of the people of the world, to have the opportunity and experience of sharing in the cultures and traditions of the people of the earth, to be open minded towards all things, to learn to get what one wants out of life by applying the limits of legal intelligence and without infringing on the rights of others, and to learn to hear from the master, the things that he alone can teach; the things that lead to a truly fulfilled human existence in this journey of life on which we all find ourselves.

CLASS AND CULTURE

Women know when a man has taste and they find this trait an attractive one; this might well be because women are naturally creatures of class. Learn to dress well, keep your shoes well-polished, match your cloths and colors properly and act like a perfect gentleman.

I guess I should also state here that acting like a perfect gentleman does not include letting women walk all over you. Women taste men a lot and if she finds you to be weak she might stop taking you seriously and I guarantee you that you will have yourself to blame at the end of the day.

Class does however include learning to refrain from hitting a lady even when she gets on your last nerve. It’s not always easy, but it’s the right thing to do and in addition; it’s classy. What then are you supposed to do when a woman is on your case and won’t let you have your peace? Simple, just do what I do, seize the next opportunity that comes your way and walk out of the room or the house if you must. Give her time to cool off and then if there’s a need to trash out the issues that caused the argument in the first place, find a way to settle your differences amicably. Like I said, it’s not always that easy but it’s the smart thing to do. If the thing that caused the argument in the first place is not worth discussing (and this is sometimes the case) then you might do well to actually the whole episode and not bother to bring it up later. If the cause of the argument was her fault and she is a sane woman (and I hope she is) he will calm down and see the errors of her ways later and end up apologizing to you. if on the other hand you are at fault then you will need to find a way right your wrongs. The power that comes with being a man also come with some responsibilities so don’t be an irresponsible man; do the right thing and make peace when you have to.

DOMINANCE

Scientific studies have shown that in some primate groups the dominant males account for well over 73% of all mating. This might be due to the attraction that the females in these groups feel for these dominant males.

Females somehow feel safe with dominant males because such males tend to reflect an air of being in control of the affairs that make up their everyday life and living. The dominance traits gives a woman the feeling that her man is in charge of the relationship and of their reality together.

SPONTANEITY AND EXCITEMENT

While I am of the opinion that some women have really lost all control over their emotions and their sex nature during the earlier days of misuse so that they have lost all signs of moral temperance, some men are however guilty of being too predictable and outright boring especially in the area of sex. Predictability isn’t in itself a bad thing but as you have probably heard before, too much of anything isn’t good for you.

Learn to do some unexpected pleasant things sometimes to give your woman a pleasant surprise. Buy her unexpected gift, try new ways to please her sexually, take her out for surprise dinner etc. don’t always insist on planning everything and doing everything by clockwork. Learn to stick to your routine but also learn to enjoy the excitement and thrill of breaking away from it from time to time. Go away for an unplanned weekend with your queen and live the kids at home. If they are too young, live them with your grandparents or with family. Learn to spice up your relationship by introducing some spontaneity into your relationship.

ENTHUSIASM

Enthusiasm is contagious whether it is found in men or in women and women like to be around enthusiastic men. In case you were wondering, so do men. That is why the sanguine personality tends to hit it big with the men folk. Stop complaining all the time or acting like the whole world is on your shoulders. Learn to let go of your troubles and unwind from time to time. Don’t try to start a relationship or to get to meet a woman by complaining to her about how unfair women are to you in particular and about life in general.

Learn to exude a happy enthusiastic exterior and keep your troubles or problems for your pastor, your God, or your counselor. They are the ones who are more likely to be able to assist you in solving them.

ROMANCE

Women love romance so learn to be romantic. Some women like poetry so if that’s what your kind of woman wants I’d suggest you started learning to write poetry or at least get someone to write some good poems for you.

You can get clues of what a woman finds romantic by observing her and noticing the things that touch her depth in a good way.

Furthermore, you can simply ask her what her idea of romance or of a perfect evening is and I am sure she would be only too ready to fill you in.

AGGRESSION

Women also find healthy aggression attractive even though some women might find it a more interesting or attractive trait than some others.

Women like it when men come after them with determination and with a healthy level of aggression. Even sex has some level of aggression tied into it and this aggression might be part of the reason why some women find sex attractive.

Women get some feeling of assurance when men are aggressive because they feel that such men are sure of themselves or that they know exactly what they want and women want to be with men who are sure of themselves, who go for what they want and who are confident.

Women somehow feel that aggressive men are more likely to succeed in life since their aggressive nature often causes them to take what they want. They also feel somewhat safe with aggressive men because they believe such men are better able to word off intruders or any threats or attacks to their safety from other men.

CONFIDENCE

This is the platform from which every other personality I have outlined here will be launched. Without confidence, you won’t be likely to get the result you desire from women.

Women know very easily when a man is not confident of himself and they don’t find men who lack confidence attractive.

If you are someone who generally dreads the thought of walking over to a woman you find attractive in a bid to initiate a conversation with her I think that it will profit you to note that the lady you are dreading walking up to is probably also silently saying a prayer in her heart and hoping that you walk up to her and introduce yourself so she can get to meet you.

As an unspoken rule in the society, men approach women; women wait to be approached by men.

I guess here is a good place for me to share a conversation between two women which I was privileged to have listened to. I happened to have overheard a young pretty lady complain to another girl about some young men in her neighborhood who had been showing distant interest in her by staring at her anytime she walked by and whom she also found attractive but who had never walked up to her to try to get to know her. All this young man did whenever he saw her was stare at her as she walked by. Perhaps if the young man knew that the girl he was apparently interested in was also interested in him he might have summoned enough courage to walk over to her and gotten to know her better. Chances are he will never know except he decides to give a try.

You never know, the lady you are interested in might herself be secretly waiting and praying that you approached her too.

DISCLAIMER

The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

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