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One of the worst mistakes a man can ever make which are very common in most men these days is for a man to beg and persuade a lady he just met to marry him against her wish. She said ‘’NO’’ to your marriage proposal, she doesn’t want to marry you, her wish is not to settle down for a lifetime with someone like you, she is not convinced you could make a good husband maybe probably because she has not seen you as her ideal man yet. Why not give her sometime or let her leave? Why promising her heaven when you are still on earth? Why promising her things you know very well you cannot afford to give her? Why telling a woman that doesn’t see a companionship in you that if you don’t get married to her you will never get married to any other lady? Is it because of her physical beauty?

What amuses me most is when a guy just run into a lady for the first time, she knows nothing about him and he knows absolutely nothing about her either but he has already fallen in love and even begging her to marry him. Is that how marriage really works? Have you ever thought of what will eventually happen in your union when you finally succeeded in persuading her to marry you? And especially when you cannot keep up to all the promises you made to make her get married to you? Why begging for marriage instead of asking for a time out to know yourselves better? If she agrees fine, if she doesn’t you let her be and check somewhere else.

So many married men are crying in silence today because of this common mistake. This happens mostly when the love of the man is more than that of the lady. In this situation you find it very difficult to make a decision in your home, whatever the lady says stands, you become so scared to counter whatever she says because you don’t want her to get angry so she doesn’t leave you. The lady automatically becomes the head of the home, (her NO is her NO, and her Yes is her Yes) you cannot change that. She ridiculed you in the presence of your children and even your friends. You start losing good number of friends because of your wife. Even your family members starts keeping distance from your home because they can’t stand to see you been ridiculed by your so-called wife. You cannot even take a common decision in your life except your wife decides that, what a life! But to you there’s nothing wrong with whatever she is doing because of a common foundational mistake you made before getting married. People started saying you are been charmed by the lady, my guy you are not charmed, you are only paying for your foolishness. One day you will die in that your foolishness and your so-called lovely wife will live and remarry to the man she loves.

Are you a young man that is thinking of getting married soon? Please learn from the mistakes of others. Don’t beg any lady for marriage. Don’t be carried away by her physical beauty thereby saying to yourself ‘’I must get married to this lady by all means, it must be she or nobody else’’. Don’t try this at all, except you are looking for a quick visa to visit your ancestors at a very young age. Nobody says you shouldn’t love the lady you want to get married to. All i am saying is love with your head on track, try controlling your emotions at all cost. Go for a lady that loves and adore you. in fact, a marriage counselor will let you know that in a relationship, the love of the lady is supposed to be greater than that of a man (man 40% and lady 60%) Your wife is supposed to see you as next to her God.

A married lady ignorantly posted this on Facebook. She said  ''Ladies! Marry a man that loves you more than you love him. By so doing, you will have no or less problems to deal with in marriage."

This post is a very misleading post, so I decided i should write on it to reveal to you the little I know. Please young ladies, disregard post and advice of this nature. Not everything you read on social media you take as an advice. Please on your own, try to scrutinize what you read or hear and also give it a second thought before acting towards it, else, it will not only consume you so badly, it will destroy your relationship and possibly kill your love life...

If you are having difficulties dealing with challenges in your relationship, please don't feel shy to approach a professional marriage counselor. Don't just take anything you read on social media as an advice. There are professional guiders and counselors of relationships and marriages, please feel free to approach anyone of them for counseling, attend marriage seminars and ask questions that borders you in your relationship, it won't cost you much compared to you destroying your home with trash you read on social media or hear from people.

A marriage where a man loves the lady more than she does will certainly crash or the man would endlessly be a servant without respect both from the woman and from the children. Eventually the man may die early and the woman become a widow or move on to remarry. This is because women generally would hardly tolerate men they have less regard for or love. She may not be proud of that man and possibly dictate things the man should do for peace to reign. But if a woman marries a man she loves and adore so much the marriage must be successful and enjoyable. This is because it’s the woman that steers every family from behind. The success of most married men is the reflection of how much love the woman loves the man. Most men are puppets in the hands of women but most men don't know that. Naturally, most men would tolerate excesses of women but some women hardly reciprocate. So the success of every marriage or family is directly proportional to the amount of love and regard the woman has for the man. That is why young men are generally advised to choose a loving and responsible woman for a wife if they must succeed in life. Finally, young women, marry men you love with all your heart and soul if you must have a happy and a successful marriage/family.

Thank you very much for reading.

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Alex Oduanam

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