27 Perfect Ways To Know A Dangerous Relationship Before You Get Yourself Committed To It | Look Before You Leap...

(How To Know A Relationship That won’t work)

The following danger signals would readily help you know a wrong relationship and escape it if you are vigilant enough:

1.       IF THE PERSON DOES NOT REGARD YOUR INTEREST: You need someone that can add value to your life as a mate. For instance, someone who does not care about your academics, career and your general well-being is not likely to be a good marriage material for you.

2.       IF YOUR MATE IS NOT ALWAYS CAPTIVATED BY WHAT CAPTIVATES YOU, you better think twice before you fall into a miserable relationship. If for instance, you have the talent of music and your partner does not see anything good about it, you better withdraw your attention from him/her. In fact, you get the attention of your mate by seeking to promote their focus.

3.       SELFISH INTEREST: In a true relationship what you hear from your partner are pronouns like ‘we’, ‘our’, ‘ours’, ‘us’. But when you discover that your partner is always saying ‘I’, ‘me’, and ‘mine’. It shows that his/her heart is not well united with yours. This is because in a good relationship you are supposed to be seen as one and not different individuals.

4.       UNCONTROLLED SEX DRIVE: Someone who cannot control his emotions when it comes to sex is not practically dependable and cannot be a good marriage material. It shows that he/she cannot do without sex even for a while. And the implication would be extra marital affairs if you decide to carry on with the person.

5.       WHEN HE/SHE DOES NOT ALLOW YOU READ HIS TEXT MESSAGES OR PICK HIS CALLS: When a guy or lady forbids his/her mate from touching their phone for the aforementioned, it means something strange is cooking.

6.       WHEN HE PROPOSES TO YOU AND DEMANDS SEX ALMOST IMMEDIATELY: it means that he is merely infatuated. He is never in true love. All he wants from you is sex.

7.       IF HE/SHE DOES NOT APPRECIATE: If you are engrossed with a mate who does not show to whatever you do for him/her, run for your life because you are heading to frustration. After all, Williams James says ‘’the deepest principle in human nature is craving to be appreciated.’’

8.       If he/she does not take important advice or counsel from wise people; there’s a tendency that he/she is not going to listen to you.

9.       IF HE/SHE IS TOO DEMANDING: Some people go into relationship purposely for money. So when a guy starts asking you for money unnecessarily as a lady it means you are in dangerous hands. Same is applicable to some ladies who may have genuine intention of going after a man except money.

10.   If your partner does not show remorse for mistakes or grievous offences; he/she is likely to be a source of sadness to you because such people assume that they are beyond judgment and criticism.

11.   If your chosen partner is always in serious quarrel or argument with his/her parents; you are likely going to experience same from them because their person may not have the capacity to maintain peace. Above all, any person that hates to take instructions from his/her superior is not marriable.

12.   If the parents of your mate are not interested in your profession or means of livelihood or status; you are likely going to be relegated to the background in the relationship.

13.   Think twice if your mate enjoys moving with rebels or immoral people; because what you identify with is what you are.

14.   ARROGANCE: Arrogance being an estimated value of oneself is a turn off any day any time. People who arrogantly scared away people. When your mate is unnecessarily arrogant it shows that he/she does not consider you important.

15.   WHEN HE IS TOO BOSSY: A man who feels all the time that he is in charge does not give chance for co-existence. He claims to be everything in the relationship which is why you must think twice before you continue with him.

16.   If you cannot trust the person with your secrets; it is likely that you are about to marry a betrayal which is why you must think twice.

17.   DISRESPECT: If you are always treated with disrespect each time you come in contact with your partner it means that the relationship is dangerous for you. the fact is that someone who does not respect cannot obey you for any reason. And if he/she does not respect your during dating or courtship, there’s every tendency that he/she will not respect you in marriage.

18.   INABILITY TO RESOLVE ARGUMENT: Potential couples who cannot resolve argument without fighting are likely to do worse in marriage. As a matter of fact, misunderstandings and arguments are unavoidable, but if they outweighs the period of peace it is evidence that the relationship is not worthy of pursuing.

19.   REFUSAL TO INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY MEMBERS: When your newly found love is not ready to introduce you to his family it is clear that you are in a dangerous relationship that you must run away from.

20.   IF HE/SHE DOES NOT HAVE THE FEAR OF GOD: Think twice if the person you are about marrying does not have the fear of God which is said by the Holy Scriptures to be the beginning of wisdom.

21.   INSINCERITY: There are many deceivers or liars when it comes to relationships. For instance, I know of a lady who gave birth to a child before repentance but decided to hide the grown-up girl from the partner, claiming to be a virgin. Unfortunately, the Christian Brother only discover the truth after he had been joined in marriage with ‘’the deceiver’’. For God’s sake why couldn’t she tell the truth to avoid the associated heart break! As a matter of fact, any relationship built on deceit, pretence, and lies always collapses untimely. This is why you must escape big danger if your mate is not sincere.

22.   IF HE/SHE DOES NOT SHOW CONCERN TO YOUR GREAT DREAMS AND ACHIEVEMENTS: A good partner should be able to ask quality questions about your dreams and focus in life. He/she must attach great value to your achievements. Being your pride in life, whoever is not interested in such things about you might not be useful to you in marriage.

23.   IF HE/SHE IS NOT DELIGHTED IN TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT YOU: If your relationship is genuine, your partner will feel like telling everybody about it – his/her newly found joy and comfort. But if he/she is ashamed of doing that or if he/she cannot introduce you joyfully to friends and others you had better think twice.

24.   IF STAYING TOGETHER WITH THE PERSON BORES YOU: Wrong people’s presence bores while right people’s presence energizes you. The question is this. Do you feel comfortable and energized in the presence of the person you have found no matter how long you stay together at a given time? If no think twice before you continue.

25.   WHEN HE/SHE DOES NOT SHOW REMORSE: When repentance is not expressed the committed offence usually occurs again. Some people never repent of past mistakes due to arrogance. They believe they are beyond judgment. So, it is useless to pursue a relationship with such people.

26.   DISOBEDIENCE TO RULES AND REGULATIONS: If you insist on marrying one who has no respect for laid down rules and regulations, you are merely signing a miserable contract for yourself. So find out critically if the person obeys rules and regulations or take orders/instructions before handing over yourself to him/her.

27.   EXCUSES: One obvious way to know you are in a bad relationship is when your partners make excuses or personalize for the mistakes or problems generated by them if their attention is drawn to them whereas they are supposed to be apologetic.

DISCLAIMER

The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

www.alexoduanam.blogspot.com