Relationship Talk: How To Make A Special Treat To Rekindle Special Intimacy In A Relationship...

Make a special treat. Even if you are on diet there is always room for a little snack once a week. Maybe it’s a food from her childhood or something  that reminds him of your first date. A little treat that you’ve either made or just remembered to pick up will show you are thinking about the two of you.

Never go to bed angry. This ancient bit of advice comes all the way from the Old Testament, and for that reason, many people have held fast to it. While it might have been an effective tool for reconciliation in Biblical times, in modern times it can be a bit problematic. Most households are dual-income families, meaning that long with raising the kids and keeping the house in shape, both Mom and Dad work outside the home.

Take a long range view. A marriage is an agreement to spend a future together. Check out your dreams with each other regularly to make sure you are both on the same path. Update your dreams regularly.

Think about the time when something went wrong between the two of you: a fight, a disappointment, a miscommunication. Ask yourself: what could I have done differently? What can we learn from this? Then talk to your partner about it, starting with what you could have done differently.

Sex is easy, while intimacy is difficult. It requires honesty, openness, self-disclosure, confiding concerns, fears, sadness as well as hopes and dreams.

Cook a meal together. Divide up the tasks so you can both be in the kitchen working at the same time.

Listen; truly listen, to your partners concerns and complaints without judgment. Much of the time, just having someone listen is all we need for solving problems. Plus it opens the door to confiding. And empathy is crucial. Look at things from your partner’s perspective as well as your own.

Learn to negotiate. Modern relationships no longer rely on roles cast by the culture. Couples create their own role, so that virtually every act requires negotiation. It works best when goodwill prevails. Because people’s needs are fluid and change over time, and life’s demands change too, good relationships are negotiated all the time.

Solve problem as they arise. Don’t let resentments simmer. Most of what goes wrong in relationships can be traced to hurt feelings, leading partners to erect defenses against one another and to become strangers or enemies.

Think of a piece of food that he likes but it’s difficult to find and order it online.

Know how to manage differences; it’s the key to success in a relationship. Disagreements don’t sink relationships. Learn how to handle the negative feelings that are the unavoidable byproduct of the differences between two people.

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The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

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