The Essentials Of Sexual Satisfaction In Marriages. (Married Alone)...

One of the things that can bring bad feelings in a relationship is lack of sexual satisfaction. Although any partner can be at the receiving end of this problem – man or woman, yet we shall concentrate more here on how to satisfy a woman in the bed because the failure of a man to satisfy her sexually can result to unfaithfulness. In fact many relationships and marriages have collapsed because of this important aspect of every relationship. Of course, most women are not always happy with a man who cannot give orgasm which is a sexual climax whereby the body experiences a release of muscle tension after the genitals have been stimulated for a period of time during which fluids are discharged from the penis or vagina.

You must realize that it is fundamentally easier for a man to have an orgasm than a woman. Once a man possibly ejaculates within 5 to 10 minutes of sexual intercourse he is done for the moment. But to make a woman gain her orgasm the following things are essential:

ROMANCE

Lovely body contact with a woman is very important to help her get ready for a sexual journey. Some men who are not aware of this often jump on and off their spouse. Romance as a pre-sexual exercise is very important because if you rush into the act without this special experience you will not only make the woman unhappy but also deprive yourself the pleasure associated with it.

One of the things you need to embark on in romance is kissing. When your lips passionately come in contact with those of the woman certain chemical receptors are activated and your brain becomes busy with transactions. A message is therefore carried to another part of your brain called the Limbic system which controls your emotions. Once the limbic system has received the messages, the brain then tells the pituary gland (all in your brain) to release the hormone called gonadotrophin. The hormone creates sexual stimulation or excitement including your erections and vibration of the woman’s body. This how kissing can facilitate sexual fulfillment.

Another important aspect of romance is foreplay or petting. Once you have been kissing passionately for a while sexual excitement becomes higher and higher thereby leading to this or going simultaneously with foreplay or petting which has to do with touching of each other’s breasts and genitals, including fondling of the woman’s clitoris – the little pea-sized thing at the center of her vagina which easily brings a woman to orgasm. This can be a time of intimacy and closeness for the couple. Like I have said, if you rush yourselves out of a special experience because foreplay gets your mind and body into the mood. Foreplay is an important element for more women as it helps to get them sexually aroused, which is crucial to lubricate the vagina. Note that it can be very painful for a woman to have a penis or even a finger enter her vagina when it is dry. Penetration is easier and sex more enjoyable to them if there is enough lubrication through secretion arising from romance. Specifically, let’s look at where to caress and how to go about it.

 Breast: The breast and nipples are sensitive areas on both men and women. Most people including men enjoy having their breast caressed or their nipples gently pinched, robbed and sucked. Note the use of the word ‘gently’ because some inexperienced men often grab and twist a woman’s nipples like someone tuning an old radio. So, being slow and gentle is the key if you must achieve your aim. However, this is not a universal pleasure. While some people enjoy having their breast caressed, some people don’t like it at all. So don’t be surprised if your hand gets pushed off in an attempt to touch your partner’s breast. Besides, some women do experience extreme breast sensitivity during menstruation that makes it painful for their breast to be touched. So be aware of what suits your partner.

Clitoris and the G-Spot: Clitoris is a little pea-sized sex organ found at the center of the outer part of the vagina. It is the organ that facilitates orgasm most in a woman when carefully stimulated. Most women find it very pleasurable to have it touched especially the uncircumcised ones because it is usually tampered with during circumcision in some cultures. The G-spot equally brings about excessive pleasure when stimulated. It is a small dime-sized area in the vagina that when stimulated properly can bring incredible pleasure. It is located an inch or two inside the vagina towards the naval. The G-spot was named by three researchers who presented their findings on this area in the vagina at the 1980 national meeting of the society for the scientific study of sex. They chose the name G-spot because the first physician to identify this area was a German gynaecologist named DR. Ernest Grafenberg, who first wrote about it in the 1940s. The G-spot orgasm is the title of the book by three researchers who embarked on the research.

Deep finger penetration can also turn a woman on in addition to fondling of the clitoris and G-spot. However, before you insert your finger (s) into a woman’s vagina for stimulation ensure that the hand is properly washed to avoid infections. For hygiene purpose, the hand must also be washed after the exercise including your penis after the actual intercourse.

Touching the penis: Apart from the fact that some men enjoy having their penis caressed and sucked, some women enjoy touching the organ. Of course such touch is also helpful to some men who find it difficult to have an erection.

VARIATION IN SEX POSITIONS AND STYLES

Varieties they say is the spice of life. Some men don’t know any other method of sex apart from the missionary style whereby the man lie on top of the woman. Such a one way direction may seem boring and monotonous to the system. This is why you must learn other approaches to sex. For instance, one of the best ways for a woman to have an orgasm during intercourse is the female-on-top position. To know more about other interesting positions and styles read books that treat the subject in detail.

On a general note, there are men who cannot satisfy women due to biological problems like partial impotency or inability to get full erection at the appropriate time. It could also be that they easily get exhausted on a woman without being able to go far, thereby making the woman to complain or grudge. In that case the man must not die in silence. You have to consult a herbal or medical practitioner for the necessary remedy…

DISCLAIMER

The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

www.alexoduanam.blogspot.com