The Perfect Ways To Turn Your Husband Away From Habits You Don't Like...

There are things some men do which has actually become habits they cannot do without. Habit is said to be a thing that someone does often and almost without thinking, especially something that is hard to stop doing. Which actually make their partners so uncomfortable living with them with such habits. Especially habits like; smoking, drinking, staying out late etc. What you should know is that, these are things they’ve been doing for years, and these things has actually become part of them and at the moment, they cannot do without these things. (Addiction) Therefor, there is nothing you can do to make leave these habits in just a day, week or months. No amount of shouting or nagging that can make them stop. But if you follow the little I have to say now, you would probably be at the right path.

A lady shared a story with me some time ago, of which her husband used to be a chronic smoker. To cut the story short, she said her husband used to be a heavy smoker, but instead of her nagging him about his habit of smoking; she would rather say to him; ‘’honey, you haven’t smoked for 4 hours, wow, I didn’t know you had such a great will-power’’. And guess what? She said the husband would always last for another couple of hours without a cigarette just to impress her, gradually until the husband finally kicked away that habit of smoking.

What is that story telling you? Don’t believe what the society is saying, that women are known for nagging. Always learn how to speaking in the right tone. This may seem like a small thing, but generally speaking, the way you speak to your partner will have a very big effect on how they react to the conversation. People tend to respond well to a soft tone and immediately get hostile or defensive towards a hash one. You must know that not just what you say to your partner that matters, but how you say it. A sweet tone as well as a good manner of approach will minimize any clashes between you and make the daily grind less difficult and more pleasant.

Learn how to listen to your partner with both ears. It is very important you communicate your own needs, hopes and expectations in your relationship, it’s equally crucial to hear your partner out too. When tensions are high, couples find it more difficult to hear what the partner is saying. When couples are disconnected, bickering or outright hostile, the tendency of listening is always at a very low point. But when you choose to ‘’lay down your guns’’, stop arguing and just hear their point of view, it is a fast way to open up happy, healthy and connected communication. If your negative mind is clouding your listening ability, it’s a good strategy to paraphrase what your partner is saying so you can hear it in your own voice and better absorb it.

Smile is one good thing you should always remember to wear on your face, even in the heat of the moment, it’s very important to show your partner kindness. In the midst of an argument, always make an arrangement to talk it through sooner rather than later. Regardless of how your partner is behaving, if you are nice it will rub off. It’s hard to be mean, unkind or abrasive to someone who is being genuinely caring and kind, even when they are still mad! Fix what you can from your end, be the partner you want to have, and watch out for the positive effects without a single argument.

Remember to have empathy for your partner too. Before becoming deeply engaged in arguments and conflict, try to pause for a moment to see what their perspective is. True partners are always doing the best they can, and it’s falling short of your needs and expectations, try to see why before criticizing. And if there is a very good reason to complain, do it in a productive manner rather than a fight provoking one…

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The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

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