Top 20 Things Worth Knowing About Love, Dating, Sex and Marriage...

Relationship could be describe as a situation in which two people spend time together or live together or have romantic or sexual feelings for each other. Whether in form of dating, courtship or marriage, ours is a world where relationship with an opposite sex can very blissful or eventually frustrating depending on the approach by both partners.

Of course, the incessant heart-breaks and divorce cases being experienced today by many, obviously show that relationships that are not well established and maintained could be disastrous. The consequences of such disasters could better be imagined. Yet a lot of people suffer them silently and openly simply because of wrong foundation and lack of proper maintenance.

Today I want to open your eyes to 20 basic things worth knowing about love, dating, sex and marriage.

1.       Love is not purchasable. Don’t marry anybody you don’t truly love because of the gifts showered on you or because of pressure from anybody, otherwise you will regret it in a long run.

2.       Don’t sleep with a man the first day you have met unless you are a prostitute. It will make you look too cheap.

3.       Don’t run into marital relationship because of sexual urge alone because, because when two people rush into marriage based on sexual feelings alone, there will be nothing to hold them together if the passion dies.

4.       Don’t marry someone with a bad habit and character in the hope of changing him/her later. Marriage does not change anybody; it only builds on the personality.

5.       Don’t marry a woman that is older than you. Don’t mind those who claim that age is just a number because the same people will mockingly ask whether she is your wife or your mother or your elder sister from the village as days go by. Once again, as a man don’t marry your elder for any reason.

6.       Don’t be too much of a nice guy by borrowing money to satisfy a girl’s expenses or borrow cloths to wear just to be admired by her. If you spend more than what you earn in the name of relationship, you are a sorrowful debtor.

7.       Sex is a special gift meant for one special person you can trust. Remember that giving a particular gift over and over again to several persons can affect the value of the gift.

8.       Sexual appetite developed and actualized before marriage can affect sexual appetite after marriage. Having sex before marriage can take away your great expectation from your honey moon. Above all it can lead to extra marital affairs. The risks are very high.

9.       As a lady, don’t approach a man directly for a relationship because you will eventually be considered cheap. Or when any problem arises he will often tell you ‘’after all you begged me to have you’’.

10.   Don’t get pregnant simply to prove to a man that you are fruitful. You may regret it at last.

11.   As a lady don’t anxiously hand over your money to a guy because he has promised to marry you. Some men can be very dangerous especially the gold diggers.

12.   Don’t wait to solve your family problems before you get married. Family problems are inexhaustible. Besides, time and tide wait for no man.

13.   The use of rings by unengaged or unmarried ladies is not advisable because a man can look at it as a commitment ring thereby ignoring you. So if you are single and still searching, desist from the use of ring unless an engagement ring.

14.   Be careful how you wait for a guy that has travelled abroad after promising you marriage especially in the absence of constant communication.

15.   Don’t look down on the parents or family members of your partner. Unlike the western world, you hardly succeed in marriage in Africa without respecting your in-laws. In other words, it is un-African to disregard your in-laws because marriage requires the cooperation of both the man and the woman’s family.

16.   You must take the necessary precautions to safeguard your marriage from disintegration. Don’t rush into divorce as a solution to relationship problems. It will only create new problems for you. it would paralyze your emotions and self-esteem thereby subjecting you to mental torture.

17.   You must learn to respect the wishes of your partner’s relations especially the parents. Unlike the western world where your relationship obligation is tied solely to your partner, relationships flow well in Africa when both families are in harmony and joy. You must therefore take into consideration, the interest of your partner’s parents and other family members except if their wishes are opposed to popular practices.

18.   Be careful how you receive all manner of gifts from a man your mind is not made up for. You may be forced to pay back if the relationship does not materialize.

19.   Don’t be in a hurry to promise someone marriage or accept marriage proposal if you are not very convinced of giving yourself to the person the rest of your life.

20.   Giving birth to too many children is very inconveniencing which is why you must plan with your partner to raise the few ones you can cater for…

DISCLAIMER

The information contained on this blog is written based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow in knowledge and understanding, what I perceived as the truth will definitely change, as a result of this – the information contained on this blog may not reflect my current outlook. Therefore, I am not liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, arising out of or in connection with the contents of this blog.

Alex Oduanam

www.alexoduanam.blogspot.com